Cindy Perkins’ safer, saner sex: making it fun and safe
Published: Friday, September 20, 2013
Updated: Friday, September 27, 2013 14:09
Lamda Theta Alpha Latin Sorority, Inc. hosted Cindy Perkins’ “Safer, Saner Sex,” a lecture in which you grow quite comfortable with the words vagina or condoms. But her talk was about a lot more than just having safe sex.
By examining our culture, Perkins has found that the Internet has had two effects: it gives information and it gives misinformation. She speaks at college campuses nationwide to dispel the myths about sex.
On the subject of culture, Perkins has an argument for almost everything.
She describes herself as “big bone, big muscle, with a layer of frosting” and told students to “live in what you’ve got: no one is selective when you get down to the good stuff.”
The ideals that magazines, televisions and celebrities are spreading about body image are not crafting a happy society, but rather influencing male and females to starve themselves, workout constantly or hate their bodies.
“Go look in the mirror, and find one thing you like, even if it is your elbow. Say, that’s a mighty fine elbow and then sprint away before you notice anything bad,” Perkins shouted across the room.
But besides body image, the audience was taken through a spectrum of other fundamental social scenes. Alcohol, always a topic at these types of lectures, was spun in a new light.
Perkins questioned whether alcohol was necessary to give spirit to a person or a party, and if so, what that said about college students or our society. Today, more people abstain from drinking and more people binge drink then ever before: these conflicting sides have created a new spectrum of college students.
“Wrap that monkey before you get funky,” she said, and nervous laughter quietly mingled between the seats in Laurel Hall. How do you respond to an eccentric woman, mother of three, shouting these words? You just keep listening.
Perkins suggests that students “dive into the condom bowls across campus,” those are free and can save you from a lot of unexpected and unwanted horrors. The medical professionals at Student Health Services have apparently seen enough of chlamydia, genital herpes, HPV and gonorrhea for their lifetimes.
Now sex: the good parts of sex. After countless interviews nationwide, Perkins has learned that men know very little about how to please women. But women don’t know much either.
Only with respect, connection and a ton of humor is a sexual experience going to be fulfilling for both members; as Perkins explains, it is two sweaty bodies doing strange stuff and – usually – not communicating.
“Taboo that we don’t talk about this,” Yomaire Diaz, a 7th semester allied health major, said. “We enjoyed it. Perkins did it the right way, it was not awkward at all.”
Her sorority sister, Marilyn Pinto, a 7th semester, psychology major, agreed, and said “Perkins answered a lot of questions about boy and girl bodies. She also covered homo- and heterosexual relationships, which is refreshing twist.”
“Communication is key. Great sex is for every person no matter what you’ve got” is Perkins’ lasting message that she said as the audience exited.