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My Spring Weekend Nightmare

Abstract:
The next time I am asked, "How was your last Spring Weekend?," it will be far too soon.

Last Saturday morning I got out of bed after a few hours of restless sleep, more than a little hung over. It is when I looked in the mirror and saw the handprints on my biceps that the events of the previous night came flooding back....

- Nameless

posted 5/02/08 @ 1:45 PM EST

I'm happy you fought back, drunkenness is no excuse. I was forcibly kissed and grabbed this weekend and being to drunk to push away I couldn't do anything but utter the words "no" over and over again. Thankfully they didn't try and have sex with me, the only no of mine that seemed to stick.

There is no reason, when seeing a distressed female, to pull her top down. Sorry boys, grow up.

Patti

posted 5/02/08 @ 5:04 PM EST

Originally posted by

- Nameless

...There is no reason, when seeing a distressed female, to pull her top down. Sorry boys, grow up.


I'm troubled by the implication that sexual assault indicates immaturity. It's criminal. Will you say "grow up" to an armed robber?

Nameless

posted 5/02/08 @ 2:27 PM EST

Thank you for being the voice of the silenced.

Pat

posted 5/02/08 @ 2:29 PM EST

Good for you in defending yourself. It's a shame that so few around you tried to help.

Maureen

posted 5/02/08 @ 2:57 PM EST

This story seems like a graduating journalist's cry for fame. If I'm mistaken, then I am sorry, but I don't buy into any of it. Sweet picture on the front page, and nice "swimmer's build," but I feel sorry for anyone who is actually a victim of assault and doesn't have such a romanticized story to tell.

George

posted 5/02/08 @ 3:23 PM EST

Originally posted by

Maureen

This story seems like a graduating journalist's cry for fame. If I'm mistaken, then I am sorry, but I don't buy into any of it. Sweet picture on the front page, and nice "swimmer's build," but I feel sorry for anyone who is actually a victim of assault and doesn't have such a romanticized story to tell.


Maureen, go fuck yourself. What gives you the right to call Melissa a liar?

stfu

posted 5/02/08 @ 3:26 PM EST

Originally posted by

Maureen

This story seems like a graduating journalist's cry for fame. If I'm mistaken, then I am sorry, but I don't buy into any of it. Sweet picture on the front page, and nice "swimmer's build," but I feel sorry for anyone who is actually a victim of assault and doesn't have such a romanticized story to tell.


as a survivor of rape, i would like to say shut the f*** up. you clearly know absolutely nothing about sexual assault and i invite you to read up on mob mentality - most notably seen in girls gone wild videos. if youve never seen something similar but on a lower scale where drunk men cheer on sexual harrassment or assault, then you've been living in a hole. crawl out and open your eyes.

not to mention, why don't you take a look at that picture again. you can actually SEE the bruises on her arms.

Jared

posted 5/02/08 @ 3:42 PM EST

Wow, Maureen. That had to be the height of ignorance and insensitivity. It must be easy to glibly dismiss and even challenge something you haven't been through.

James

posted 5/02/08 @ 4:47 PM EST

Originally posted by

Maureen

This story seems like a graduating journalist's cry for fame. If I'm mistaken, then I am sorry, but I don't buy into any of it. Sweet picture on the front page, and nice "swimmer's build," but I feel sorry for anyone who is actually a victim of assault and doesn't have such a romanticized story to tell.


In what bizarre way do you think this story is "romanticized"? What is wrong with you that your assumption, with no reason to think so, is that the victim is lying?

Hanna

posted 5/02/08 @ 6:42 PM EST

If you look a closer at the picture you can see the bruises on her arm. That's going to the extreme for a story, don't you think?
Originally posted by

Maureen

This story seems like a graduating journalist's cry for fame. If I'm mistaken, then I am sorry, but I don't buy into any of it. Sweet picture on the front page, and nice "swimmer's build," but I feel sorry for anyone who is actually a victim of assault and doesn't have such a romanticized story to tell.

WW

posted 5/03/08 @ 9:25 PM EST

Originally posted by

Maureen

This story seems like a graduating journalist's cry for fame. If I'm mistaken, then I am sorry, but I don't buy into any of it. Sweet picture on the front page, and nice "swimmer's build," but I feel sorry for anyone who is actually a victim of assault and doesn't have such a romanticized story to tell.


You're too cynical and ignorant for anyone to take your hollow in-advance apology seriously.

Matt

posted 5/03/08 @ 10:05 PM EST

Originally posted by

Maureen

This story seems like a graduating journalist's cry for fame. If I'm mistaken, then I am sorry, but I don't buy into any of it. Sweet picture on the front page, and nice "swimmer's build," but I feel sorry for anyone who is actually a victim of assault and doesn't have such a romanticized story to tell.


I suppose those marks on her arms on the front page were makeup from the Theatrical Department. I don't know what the hell is wrong with you, but wow, what would she possibly have gained from this story by making it up? Why don't you go talk to the UCONN police and verify it, if you think it's fake? Jesus Christ, some people...you owe her a face to face apology and should seriously think before you express your opinion.

No name

posted 5/04/08 @ 11:01 PM EST

you may not buy into it, but you shouldn't state that on here...it's her story to tell, you can't judge the truth or not so keep that to yourself


Originally posted by

Maureen

This story seems like a graduating journalist's cry for fame. If I'm mistaken, then I am sorry, but I don't buy into any of it. Sweet picture on the front page, and nice "swimmer's build," but I feel sorry for anyone who is actually a victim of assault and doesn't have such a romanticized story to tell.

kkarma

posted 5/07/08 @ 5:21 PM EST

Originally posted by

Maureen

This story seems like a graduating journalist's cry for fame. If I'm mistaken, then I am sorry, but I don't buy into any of it. Sweet picture on the front page, and nice "swimmer's build," but I feel sorry for anyone who is actually a victim of assault and doesn't have such a romanticized story to tell.


are you fucking serious? grow the hell up. this kind of mistreatment of women will never stop unless we talk about it openly instead of hiding it with shame. if something like that happened to you i bet you'd change your tune.

jaye patterson

posted 5/07/08 @ 6:05 PM EST

You are a disgusting moron. I hope someone close to you can tell you her story so you believe it, or that you can someday be brutally sodomized. But you may not be capable of normal thought or emotion. So if she's not your idea of hot, she can;t be assualted? You're an ass, and i can only leave you to your inadequate shriveled conscience and testes.
Originally posted by

Maureen

This story seems like a graduating journalist's cry for fame. If I'm mistaken, then I am sorry, but I don't buy into any of it. Sweet picture on the front page, and nice "swimmer's build," but I feel sorry for anyone who is actually a victim of assault and doesn't have such a romanticized story to tell.

Maria Raha

posted 5/08/08 @ 11:20 AM EST

Originally posted by

Maureen

This story seems like a graduating journalist's cry for fame. If I'm mistaken, then I am sorry, but I don't buy into any of it. Sweet picture on the front page, and nice "swimmer's build," but I feel sorry for anyone who is actually a victim of assault and doesn't have such a romanticized story to tell.


What boils my blood about your comment is that people still don't understand the price women pay when they admit these things publicly. Rarely, if ever, is admitting sexual assault publicly a "cry for fame," considering the harassment and verbal attacks that inevitably follow. Your comment is a sharp reminder that this country's attitudes toward violence against women hasn't evolved much at all since 1970s feminism worked to combat such mindsets.

The continued reflex to blame women for sexual assault saddens me-- particularly from a generation who should know better.

Kristy

posted 5/08/08 @ 11:54 AM EST

Originally posted by

Maureen

This story seems like a graduating journalist's cry for fame. If I'm mistaken, then I am sorry, but I don't buy into any of it.


Nice work, Maureen. With no knowledge of the situation and no apparent reasoning to back you up, you accuse the author of lying about two assaults that were apparently witnessed by many, many people, because yu find the story 'romantic'. I think your comment says a lot more about you than it does about the author or the situation.

So, this is the environment and culture of UConn, eh? I'll keep that in mind as my child, family members, and friends' children consider colleges in the future.

Wanda Rizzuto

posted 5/08/08 @ 5:36 PM EST

"Swimmer's build"? WTF is that supposed to mean?

I'd tell you to go fuck yourself but everyone else beat me to it. Eh. Go fuck yourself.

Originally posted by

Maureen

This story seems like a graduating journalist's cry for fame. If I'm mistaken, then I am sorry, but I don't buy into any of it. Sweet picture on the front page, and nice "swimmer's build," but I feel sorry for anyone who is actually a victim of assault and doesn't have such a romanticized story to tell.

f

posted 5/10/08 @ 12:49 AM EST

Originally posted by

Maureen

This story seems like a graduating journalist's cry for fame. If I'm mistaken, then I am sorry, but I don't buy into any of it. Sweet picture on the front page, and nice "swimmer's build," but I feel sorry for anyone who is actually a victim of assault and doesn't have such a romanticized story to tell.


test.

Paul

posted 5/10/08 @ 5:28 PM EST

Originally posted by

Maureen

This story seems like a graduating journalist's cry for fame. If I'm mistaken, then I am sorry, but I don't buy into any of it. Sweet picture on the front page, and nice "swimmer's build," but I feel sorry for anyone who is actually a victim of assault and doesn't have such a romanticized story to tell.


Did your boyfriend come home with a black eye, Maureen? WTF is wrong with you?


And, just in case any of the young men who were involved in this happen to read this. I have a daughter, and a gun. Think about the connection there when you are tempted to take what isn't offered. There is no excuse in the world that Maureen can make on your behalf that will protect you should you happen to pick my daughter. The only question being, will I pull the trigger or will she?

nameless

posted 9/06/09 @ 10:04 PM EST

okay, because she said she "thought it was her friend's attempt at humor." what does that indicate to you what she's really thinking?
Originally posted by

Maureen

This story seems like a graduating journalist's cry for fame. If I'm mistaken, then I am sorry, but I don't buy into any of it. Sweet picture on the front page, and nice "swimmer's build," but I feel sorry for anyone who is actually a victim of assault and doesn't have such a romanticized story to tell.

Bill Rose

posted 5/02/08 @ 4:28 PM EST

Five drinks makes you too drunk to drive a car, but it doesn't make you too drunk to get the facts of your story wrong. I think your story rings true and I'm so sorry it happened. Horrible people are everywhere and I'm sorry you ran into them in the worst possible way at UConn. I hope they find the men that did it, so no one else has to go through what you did at their hands.

Good luck to you always, Bill

Orlando

posted 5/02/08 @ 5:30 PM EST

That takes courage to write an article like that. Hopefully, and I think it will, at least one person (if not more) will think about this story while walking alone next Spring Weekend or any weekend for that matter. I saw way too many girls (and guys) alone during Spring Weekend totally drunk, sitting on the ground, lost. There are only so many people out there that are willing to help a stranger, thats the sad part.

Craig

posted 5/02/08 @ 6:07 PM EST

Wow. I guess this just goes to show that when these warnings about the dangers of spring weekend are espoused, the "it can't happen to me" reigns. In no way am I saying you deserved it, as the guys were clearly assholes and deserved to be punished, but Uconn needs to do something to address the problem.

Molly

posted 5/07/08 @ 5:56 PM EST

Originally posted by

Craig

Wow. I guess this just goes to show that when these warnings about the dangers of spring weekend are espoused, the "it can't happen to me" reigns. In no way am I saying you deserved it, as the guys were clearly assholes and deserved to be punished, but Uconn needs to do something to address the problem.


How about teaching boys and men that under no circumstances is sexual assault and/or rape acceptable? Self-defense classes have been taught to women for years. It's past time for men to have self-control classes.

Jaime

posted 5/02/08 @ 6:14 PM EST

Thank you for putting your story out there. It keeps us aware that no matter how many police and school officials are there we still need to look out for ourselves and know to fight back. Good for you, I hope that the bruises you left on those guys go as deep as their pride and they know enough now not to mess with anyone else.

Thomas

posted 5/02/08 @ 6:29 PM EST

I have talked with a number of people about this topic, and I am torn between talking about this between two different ways.

Let me first start off by saying that I feel sorry for what happened. As a guy, I constantly read about how other guys treat women and it makes me sick. My parents always brought me up to respect women. I hope that over time, you are able to heal.

Now, on to some journalistic criticism. This is on journalistic matters and how this story was handled, NOT about the situation itself. I felt that the article was poorly written and should not have been put on the front page above the fold. If anything, it should have started in the Commentary section and continued elsewhere. Normally, any story that is printed a week after the occurence rarely gets on the front page of any paper. Yes, I know it was traumatic, and if she couldn't bring herself to write it before, then perhaps a reporter should have done an interview, so she could get her story out there and more timely.

Secondly, the picture is totally inappropriate for the article. The first thing I honestly saw when I picked up the paper was the three words "SOME GIRLS LUCKY". We all know that "lucky" is another word for having sex, and to wear that shirt and talk about being sexually harassed, well that was just in very poor taste. After looking closer, I saw that there were smaller words, but from afar, no one would honestly see them. Another photo should have been used, or a different shirt.

Thirdly the article being released when it was was poor timing. Yes, I know taht she might not have been able to talk about it right away, but I ask that you go back to where I said that she should have talked to a reporter. To have the Editor-In-Chief who is graduating next week tell this tale without another issue for anyone to comment about the article seems also in very poor taste. This article should have run sooner, or it should not have ran at all. From my perspective, it seems like she wanted to get her story out there (and I give her full credit for that and support it), so she used her power as Editor-In-Chief and put it on the front page above the fold for the last normal issue.

There are other things that I find wrong with the article, but I have said my piece. If anyone responds, please respond to the fact that I critized the paper from a journalistic side and not from the side of sexual harrassment. I tried to remember while thinking about this article that it must have been hard for her to share her story with the student body, but I feel that the means of sharing this story should have been reviewed before publication.

Sarah

posted 5/02/08 @ 6:48 PM EST

Originally posted by

Thomas

I have talked with a number of people about this topic, and I am torn between talking about this between two different ways.

Let me first start off by saying that I feel sorry for what happened. As a guy, I constantly read about how other guys treat women and it makes me sick. My parents always brought me up to respect women. I hope that over time, you are able to heal.

Now, on to some journalistic criticism. This is on journalistic matters and how this story was handled, NOT about the situation itself. I felt that the article was poorly written and should not have been put on the front page above the fold. If anything, it should have started in the Commentary section and continued elsewhere. Normally, any story that is printed a week after the occurence rarely gets on the front page of any paper. Yes, I know it was traumatic, and if she couldn't bring herself to write it before, then perhaps a reporter should have done an interview, so she could get her story out there and more timely.

Secondly, the picture is totally inappropriate for the article. The first thing I honestly saw when I picked up the paper was the three words "SOME GIRLS LUCKY". We all know that "lucky" is another word for having sex, and to wear that shirt and talk about being sexually harassed, well that was just in very poor taste. After looking closer, I saw that there were smaller words, but from afar, no one would honestly see them. Another photo should have been used, or a different shirt.

Thirdly the article being released when it was was poor timing. Yes, I know taht she might not have been able to talk about it right away, but I ask that you go back to where I said that she should have talked to a reporter. To have the Editor-In-Chief who is graduating next week tell this tale without another issue for anyone to comment about the article seems also in very poor taste. This article should have run sooner, or it should not have ran at all. From my perspective, it seems like she wanted to get her story out there (and I give her full credit for that and support it), so she used her power as Editor-In-Chief and put it on the front page above the fold for the last normal issue.

There are other things that I find wrong with the article, but I have said my piece. If anyone responds, please respond to the fact that I critized the paper from a journalistic side and not from the side of sexual harrassment. I tried to remember while thinking about this article that it must have been hard for her to share her story with the student body, but I feel that the means of sharing this story should have been reviewed before publication.



Okay, I'll respond from a journalistic side.

1) The picture choice. I think your mind is in the gutter. When I first saw the picture I was able to see "Some Girls are Born Lucky" and thought yeah she was lucky with what happened. That's that.

2) From a journalistic point of view, there is nothing wrong with having this type of story on the front page above the fold. It is totally appropriate and very relevant. I am not sure where you figured it can't be on the front page. Would you rather have a story about how students hate studying for finals or the best ways to stay up all night studying for finals? Many papers (not college ones) will run personal stories on the front page.

I could go on and on but I just don't feel like it. I am trying to think back if anything like this type of story has been put in the Daily Campus before, highlighting a true case of a sexual assault (written by the actual survivor), and I really can't think of one. This has the potential to start a very important and needed dialogue about this issue on campus. (just look at the number of comments online for this article).

Wayne Worcester

posted 5/03/08 @ 9:41 PM EST

Originally posted by

Thomas

I have talked with a number of people about this topic, and I am torn between talking about this between two different ways.

Let me first start off by saying that I feel sorry for what happened. As a guy, I constantly read about how other guys treat women and it makes me sick. My parents always brought me up to respect women. I hope that over time, you are able to heal.

Now, on to some journalistic criticism. This is on journalistic matters and how this story was handled, NOT about the situation itself. I felt that the article was poorly written and should not have been put on the front page above the fold. If anything, it should have started in the Commentary section and continued elsewhere. Normally, any story that is printed a week after the occurence rarely gets on the front page of any paper. Yes, I know it was traumatic, and if she couldn't bring herself to write it before, then perhaps a reporter should have done an interview, so she could get her story out there and more timely.

Secondly, the picture is totally inappropriate for the article. The first thing I honestly saw when I picked up the paper was the three words "SOME GIRLS LUCKY". We all know that "lucky" is another word for having sex, and to wear that shirt and talk about being sexually harassed, well that was just in very poor taste. After looking closer, I saw that there were smaller words, but from afar, no one would honestly see them. Another photo should have been used, or a different shirt.

Thirdly the article being released when it was was poor timing. Yes, I know taht she might not have been able to talk about it right away, but I ask that you go back to where I said that she should have talked to a reporter. To have the Editor-In-Chief who is graduating next week tell this tale without another issue for anyone to comment about the article seems also in very poor taste. This article should have run sooner, or it should not have ran at all. From my perspective, it seems like she wanted to get her story out there (and I give her full credit for that and support it), so she used her power as Editor-In-Chief and put it on the front page above the fold for the last normal issue.

There are other things that I find wrong with the article, but I have said my piece. If anyone responds, please respond to the fact that I critized the paper from a journalistic side and not from the side of sexual harrassment. I tried to remember while thinking about this article that it must have been hard for her to share her story with the student body, but I feel that the means of sharing this story should have been reviewed before publication.


Thomas, What you know about journalism, newspaper publication cycles and, I have to say, reading, too, would fit in perhaps two thimbles. Go back and read the story and consider apologizing for your inane "journalistic" comments.

Nadria

posted 5/07/08 @ 6:20 PM EST

First, this is not an "article" as much as it is an "essay," so your analysis is inappropriate. Second, sexual assualt is a big deal, like front page big. Also, I'm pretty sure the t-shirt is meant to be ironic. What are you really upset about?

Originally posted by

Thomas

I have talked with a number of people about this topic, and I am torn between talking about this between two different ways.

Let me first start off by saying that I feel sorry for what happened. As a guy, I constantly read about how other guys treat women and it makes me sick. My parents always brought me up to respect women. I hope that over time, you are able to heal.

Now, on to some journalistic criticism. This is on journalistic matters and how this story was handled, NOT about the situation itself. I felt that the article was poorly written and should not have been put on the front page above the fold. If anything, it should have started in the Commentary section and continued elsewhere. Normally, any story that is printed a week after the occurence rarely gets on the front page of any paper. Yes, I know it was traumatic, and if she couldn't bring herself to write it before, then perhaps a reporter should have done an interview, so she could get her story out there and more timely.

Secondly, the picture is totally inappropriate for the article. The first thing I honestly saw when I picked up the paper was the three words "SOME GIRLS LUCKY". We all know that "lucky" is another word for having sex, and to wear that shirt and talk about being sexually harassed, well that was just in very poor taste. After looking closer, I saw that there were smaller words, but from afar, no one would honestly see them. Another photo should have been used, or a different shirt.

Thirdly the article being released when it was was poor timing. Yes, I know taht she might not have been able to talk about it right away, but I ask that you go back to where I said that she should have talked to a reporter. To have the Editor-In-Chief who is graduating next week tell this tale without another issue for anyone to comment about the article seems also in very poor taste. This article should have run sooner, or it should not have ran at all. From my perspective, it seems like she wanted to get her story out there (and I give her full credit for that and support it), so she used her power as Editor-In-Chief and put it on the front page above the fold for the last normal issue.

There are other things that I find wrong with the article, but I have said my piece. If anyone responds, please respond to the fact that I critized the paper from a journalistic side and not from the side of sexual harrassment. I tried to remember while thinking about this article that it must have been hard for her to share her story with the student body, but I feel that the means of sharing this story should have been reviewed before publication.

Dax

posted 5/09/08 @ 2:05 AM EST

Originally posted by

Thomas

I felt that the article was poorly written and...should have started in the Commentary section... the picture is totally inappropriate..."SOME GIRLS LUCKY"...to wear that shirt and talk about being sexually harassed...was just in very poor taste...To have the Editor-In-Chief...this tale without another issue for anyone to comment...seems also in very poor taste...like she wanted to get her story out there...used her power as Editor-In-Chief and put it on the front page above the fold for the last normal issue.


I agree that the article is poorly written and I was surprized by that, given that the author is Editor-in-Chief and about to graduate. Nonetheless, I do find the article newsworthy: A student was sexually assaulted on campus in full view of her fellow students who did nothing to help. In fact, her fellow students cheered on and encouraged her assailant. But wait, that's not all. As the article points out, this particular assault occured against a backdrop of similar events. But wait, there's even more. It would seem that sexual assault is fairly common on campus - so common, in fact, that University administrators and security personel find themselves grappling with an on-going issue: How to ensure female students' safety on campus. And wait again, this issue is not confined to one campus - it's a nation-wide problem. So, yeah, I find this article newsworthy and apparently, so do the many, many people it took in the chain of emails that brought this story to me - I live in Montreal, Quebec, Canada. Never heard of your school before.

Now, as to the picture: I loved it. Talk about 'a propos.' Her writing sucks but her sense of irony is delicious.

Finally, three cheers for using her position as Editor-in-Chief to spark an international discussion on an issue that affects over half the world's population - the half that rarely finds itself in the position of having the means to draw attention to or effectively address the issues that are particular to itself.

Good luck Melissa, I understand your choices but I would rethink dropping charges.

Sara

posted 5/02/08 @ 6:48 PM EST

I agree with Thomas. It was very brave for her to come out and tell her story, but I believe that it could have be done more tastefully. First, the phrase on the tee-shirt distracts the reader from the story. Also, instead of waiting until the last issue of the paper, it could have been posted sooner.

I also do not think that it is appropriate to be bashing the amount of arrests the cops made spring weekend; they are giving up their weekend nights so students can have fun being crazy. They did all that they could with the number of staff and volunteers that they had. Unfortunately, situations like this one occur from poor planning and bad luck. I hope that a situation like hers can be avoided in the future if people are aware of the dangers about going out on nights like spring weekend.

Matt

posted 5/03/08 @ 10:11 PM EST

Originally posted by

Sara

I agree with Thomas. It was very brave for her to come out and tell her story, but I believe that it could have be done more tastefully. First, the phrase on the tee-shirt distracts the reader from the story. Also, instead of waiting until the last issue of the paper, it could have been posted sooner.

I also do not think that it is appropriate to be bashing the amount of arrests the cops made spring weekend; they are giving up their weekend nights so students can have fun being crazy. They did all that they could with the number of staff and volunteers that they had. Unfortunately, situations like this one occur from poor planning and bad luck. I hope that a situation like hers can be avoided in the future if people are aware of the dangers about going out on nights like spring weekend.


It could very easily be that the writer was not allowed to, due to the police investigation, or that the writer was not ready to re-live a near tragedy so quickly. Good for her for having the bravery to tell her story.

Stella

posted 5/20/08 @ 10:59 PM EST

Originally posted by

Sara

I agree with Thomas. It was very brave for her to come out and tell her story, but I believe that it could have be done more tastefully. First, the phrase on the tee-shirt distracts the reader from the story. Also, instead of waiting until the last issue of the paper, it could have been posted sooner.

I also do not think that it is appropriate to be bashing the amount of arrests the cops made spring weekend; they are giving up their weekend nights so students can have fun being crazy. They did all that they could with the number of staff and volunteers that they had. Unfortunately, situations like this one occur from poor planning and bad luck. I hope that a situation like hers can be avoided in the future if people are aware of the dangers about going out on nights like spring weekend.
I love this comment. First, the complaint about tastefulness; because, you know, rape should always be addressed tastefully!

As for waiting till the last issue, I'm with you there, But you really have to think about the human being who went through this ordeal. She is not an entertainment construct. She might have spent some time getting her courage and self back in shape before she could write these words down.


And lastly; "if people are aware of the dangers of going out on nights like spring weekend."
You DO realise, you are blaming the victims, right? If they go out, it's their fault they've been assaulted.

Someone commenting under you had the best suggestion; that men should take self control classes. They do not need to be ignorant animals. They do not need to make women responsible for this lack of safety. Women are not the rapists; men are.

Robert LaChance

posted 5/02/08 @ 8:35 PM EST

"a small crowd gathered, mostly men"
No not men,"punks"
And to women in this crowd, SHAME ON YOU

Col Robert LaChance, USMC ret

Stephanie

posted 5/07/08 @ 12:26 PM EST

Originally posted by

Robert LaChance

"a small crowd gathered, mostly men"
No not men,"punks"
And to women in this crowd, SHAME ON YOU

Col Robert LaChance, USMC ret


What about, not men, but "fucking assholes who have no decency nor value on others' lives, and instead feel the need to press themselves upon others to get their rocks off"?

What about, to the women AND men in the crowd, "shame on you"? To ANYONE who didn't lift a finger to help, while this girl suffered at the hands of the aforementioned "fucking assholes"?

Rick

posted 5/04/08 @ 5:13 AM EST

While I don't question that this happened, I do question Ms. Bruen's decision to report her own story as news on the front page, above the fold, complete with color picture, on her last day as editor. Another reporter should have been assigned to the story. Her first-hand account could then have appeared as a sidebar, or on the editorial page.

Several high-profile scandals involving journalists reporting their own uncorroborated stories (like Janet Cooke at the Washington Post or Jayson Blair at the New York Times) have made me wary of such stories. It's sad but true that stories like this can no longer be taken at face value.

If Ms. Bruen had assigned her story to another reporter, some of the loose ends may have been tied up a little better. For example, she confesses that she had a lot to drink but does not admit that her recollection of events may have been clouded by the booze. Another reporter might have pressed her on that point.

She reports that at 1 AM, she sits down on a well-known trail and leans against a telephone pole (or tree, as the picture caption says) to talk on the phone when she is accosted. The trail is not some isolated trail deep in the woods; it is a ¾-mile long, paved, well-lit path that is teeming with cops and "thousands of people." Another reporter might have tested that fact pattern, which makes her version of events seem like a stretch.

She says, "I hung up the phone, and shoved the man off me". Why in the world would she take the time to hang up the phone when the person she was talking to might have helped? Another reporter (or the police) might have questioned that other person for details.

She describes bruises on her "arms and legs and right cheek" but overlooks the fact that when you hit a person "with a closed fist, full force, in the face," your hand can hurt like hell if you caught him squarely. Did she hurt her hand? Would the perp have any visible bruises that might help identify him?

Anyway, I hope the police catch the guys who did this to Ms. Bruen. And I hope the whole university community sees that while alcohol may explain your conduct, it never excuses it.

Skeptic

posted 5/04/08 @ 5:37 AM EST

Something smells funny about this. Why is it on the front page? Melissa inappropriately used her position to get attention. Maybe she needs attention of a different kind - a psychiatrist's.

Someone who doesn't abuse their power

posted 5/04/08 @ 2:42 PM EST

Thanks for abusing your power as editor in chief and slapping this story on the front page above the fold other than turning it into a commentary piece where it really belongs. Thanks for thinking that your story is more important than others when it clearly contains so many flaws and due to your state of drunkenness, etc. Not justifying the action, but Bruen is a horrible person and even worse editor/writer. Sorry this happened to you, but great way to end your college career and poor career as editor in chief, with your last article being this piece of garbage.

Wishing you nothing but hardship the rest of your life,
One of the MANY people who HATE you, Melissa

Ross Bickford

posted 5/04/08 @ 3:37 PM EST

Originally posted by

Someone who doesn't abuse their power

Thanks for abusing your power as editor in chief and slapping this story on the front page above the fold other than turning it into a commentary piece where it really belongs. Thanks for thinking that your story is more important than others when it clearly contains so many flaws and due to your state of drunkenness, etc. Not justifying the action, but Bruen is a horrible person and even worse editor/writer. Sorry this happened to you, but great way to end your college career and poor career as editor in chief, with your last article being this piece of garbage.

Wishing you nothing but hardship the rest of your life,
One of the MANY people who HATE you, Melissa



The comments to this article make me sick, both as a friendly aquaintance of Melissa, and as a human being. How could any of you possibly criticize her for doing something so brave. In printing this article she is showing women that it is not right to feel ashamed of being victims of assault. So many women are assaulted every day, and they fail to report it because they feel that they are somehow at fault. They think that maybe if they hadn't been so drunk, or had not been wearing such a low cut shirt, or maybe if they had not been alone this would never have happened. Other women dont come forward because they are affraid that the perpetrater of the crime will attack again. Nothing explains or excuses sexual assault. When sexual assault occurs on campus and is reported on it is always featured prominently in the daily campus. I doubt very much that Melissa was the sole decision maker that resulted in this article being put on the front page of the paper, and even if she was, I think that it was the most newsworthy article on the front page that day, and was certainly the only front page article that I read.

The previous poster is the lowliest type of human I have ever seen. Imagine if Melissa was your sister or your mother or your friend, and she was assaulted, and then had the courage to come forward and speak out about the attrocious things that happened to her, hopefully encouraging other women to do the same. Then imagine that people called her a liar, challenged her recollection of the event, and told her she was wrong in coming forward. Melissa not only had the courage to face her nightmare again, but she did so in a public forum. You on the other hand spew hate and dont even have the courage to attach a name to your comment. All of you who challenge Melissa for coming forward, especially the previous poster, are no better than the would be rapists, or the "men" in the crowd who stood by and did nothign while Ms. Bruen was being attacked. If one woman reads all of these comments and then decides not to come forward after being sexually assaulted becuase she is afraid she will be treated as you have treated Melissa, then you are no better than rapists, becuase you are allowing for their behavior to go unpunished.

Jay

posted 5/09/08 @ 3:42 AM EST

Originally posted by

Someone who doesn't abuse their power

Thanks for abusing your power as editor in chief and slapping this story on the front page above the fold other than turning it into a commentary piece where it really belongs. Thanks for thinking that your story is more important than others when it clearly contains so many flaws and due to your state of drunkenness, etc. Not justifying the action, but Bruen is a horrible person and even worse editor/writer. Sorry this happened to you, but great way to end your college career and poor career as editor in chief, with your last article being this piece of garbage.

Wishing you nothing but hardship the rest of your life,
One of the MANY people who HATE you, Melissa


Congratulations on managing to sneak an advertisement into the DC without paying. I'm sure contraceptive sales will skyrocket after those reading have seen what your parents produced. What a vile piece of shit you are.

Dani Nordin

posted 5/18/08 @ 12:35 PM EST

Originally posted by

Someone who doesn't abuse their power

Thanks for abusing your power as editor in chief and slapping this story on the front page above the fold other than turning it into a commentary piece where it really belongs. Thanks for thinking that your story is more important than others when it clearly contains so many flaws and due to your state of drunkenness, etc. Not justifying the action, but Bruen is a horrible person and even worse editor/writer. Sorry this happened to you, but great way to end your college career and poor career as editor in chief, with your last article being this piece of garbage.

Wishing you nothing but hardship the rest of your life,
One of the MANY people who HATE you, Melissa


Seriously, you need help.

Pete

posted 5/04/08 @ 3:33 PM EST

Oh wow, you're sooooo brave. Please. There's a story of a kid in Georgia who was imprisoned for several years for having consensual sex with a 15-year-old girl when he was 16. THAT'S injustice, not whatever minor shenanigans happened with you. There are COUNTLESS instances of false rape accustations that lead to arrests, convictions, or simply the staining of a guy's name. (Duke lacrosse is only the foremost example).

When it comes to "rape", the vast majority of the time the only injustices are felt by men, not girls. I'm sick of supposed to be feeling sorry for girls (and yes, I say girls just to annoy feminists). This editor will probably have here future paved with gold by newspapers who will hire her only because she's female, while far more qualifed male reporters/editors, etc. get the shaft. Happens every day, in companies, newspapers, etc. across the land. Who's getting raped there?

Ross Bickford

posted 5/04/08 @ 3:53 PM EST

Originally posted by

Pete

Oh wow, you're sooooo brave. Please. There's a story of a kid in Georgia who was imprisoned for several years for having consensual sex with a 15-year-old girl when he was 16. THAT'S injustice, not whatever minor shenanigans happened with you. There are COUNTLESS instances of false rape accustations that lead to arrests, convictions, or simply the staining of a guy's name. (Duke lacrosse is only the foremost example).

When it comes to "rape", the vast majority of the time the only injustices are felt by men, not girls. I'm sick of supposed to be feeling sorry for girls (and yes, I say girls just to annoy feminists). This editor will probably have here future paved with gold by newspapers who will hire her only because she's female, while far more qualifed male reporters/editors, etc. get the shaft. Happens every day, in companies, newspapers, etc. across the land. Who's getting raped there?



Now this is just the stupidest thing I have ever seen: "When it comes to "rape", the vast majority of the time the only injustices are felt by men, not girls." I think that the ones that get raped are the ones who undergo the greates injustice. You imply in just a few sentences that all women who get raped somehow deserve it. Im so sad that you are a white, male, in America, who is attending a public university. Life is so hard for you. All the minorities are just taking all the opportunities away from you. Lets be honest. You have never seen real injustice. You have no idea what it is like to be considered a second class citizen because of your skin color or gender. Neither do I. But at least I have empathy. You on the otherhand are just a whiny shovenist loser. It is an attrocity that men can be falsely accused of sexual harasment, but it is nowhere near as terrible as actually being sexually harassed, so how about you stop playing the victim and take advantage of all of the opportunities you have been given in life.

VapaaSyntyaan

posted 5/05/08 @ 12:24 AM EST

Originally posted by

Pete

Oh wow, you're sooooo brave. Please. There's a story of a kid in Georgia who was imprisoned for several years for having consensual sex with a 15-year-old girl when he was 16. THAT'S injustice, not whatever minor shenanigans happened with you. There are COUNTLESS instances of false rape accustations that lead to arrests, convictions, or simply the staining of a guy's name. (Duke lacrosse is only the foremost example).

When it comes to "rape", the vast majority of the time the only injustices are felt by men, not girls. I'm sick of supposed to be feeling sorry for girls (and yes, I say girls just to annoy feminists). This editor will probably have here future paved with gold by newspapers who will hire her only because she's female, while far more qualifed male reporters/editors, etc. get the shaft. Happens every day, in companies, newspapers, etc. across the land. Who's getting raped there?



Okay, I hardly know where to start... first, the number of falsely reported rapes is only 2-3%, no different than for other crimes, and that number arises from an already seriously underreported crime- with estimates of only 26-37% of committed rapes being reported. (http://csip.wayne.edu/sexualassault_facts.php).
Secondly, as a rape survivor myself, your allegations that the 'only injustices are felt by men' are so far from true. The survivors of sexual assault can suffer from serious mental disorders and many other health issues, educate yourself on an issue before posting your own untruths. And what if it was a woman you loved in the same situation, being assaulted with others standing around cheering? Your sister or girlfriend... would you just stand there and let the assault happen, since you're so sick of feeling sorry for women and have no regard for their well-being?
Don't even *itch about men not getting jobs. Men, esp. white men, have greater inherent privilege than any other gender/race. That is not a personal opinion or feminist propaganda, but a known truth. And the real 'rape' is the non-action of all the people standing around and not stopping the assault. It is a complete disregard of the rights of half our world's population and an act that only fosters and promotes a societal view that holds no regard for women's rights.

Neuter Pete Fund

posted 5/08/08 @ 3:17 PM EST

Originally posted by

Pete

Oh wow, you're sooooo brave. Please. There's a story of a kid in Georgia who was imprisoned for several years for having consensual sex with a 15-year-old girl when he was 16. THAT'S injustice, not whatever minor shenanigans happened with you. There are COUNTLESS instances of false rape accustations that lead to arrests, convictions, or simply the staining of a guy's name. (Duke lacrosse is only the foremost example).

When it comes to "rape", the vast majority of the time the only injustices are felt by men, not girls. I'm sick of supposed to be feeling sorry for girls (and yes, I say girls just to annoy feminists). This editor will probably have here future paved with gold by newspapers who will hire her only because she's female, while far more qualifed male reporters/editors, etc. get the shaft. Happens every day, in companies, newspapers, etc. across the land. Who's getting raped there?


I'm thinking of starting a fund to pay for the operation to have this boy neutered before he breeds (or breeds more). If we raise enough $, we can consider having him vaccinated too so he won't contract rabies from the other vermin and spread it around campus.

Dax

posted 5/09/08 @ 2:28 AM EST

Originally posted by

Pete

Oh wow, you're sooooo brave. Please. There's a story of a kid in Georgia who was imprisoned for several years for having consensual sex with a 15-year-old girl when he was 16. THAT'S injustice, not whatever minor shenanigans happened with you. There are COUNTLESS instances of false rape accustations that lead to arrests, convictions, or simply the staining of a guy's name. (Duke lacrosse is only the foremost example).

When it comes to "rape", the vast majority of the time the only injustices are felt by men, not girls. I'm sick of supposed to be feeling sorry for girls (and yes, I say girls just to annoy feminists). This editor will probably have here future paved with gold by newspapers who will hire her only because she's female, while far more qualifed male reporters/editors, etc. get the shaft. Happens every day, in companies, newspapers, etc. across the land. Who's getting raped there?


LOL.

jack kelley interviews tawana brawley

posted 5/04/08 @ 4:33 PM EST

i was at one of the parties that melissa was at the night this happened. melissa was not wearing a tube top.

herg

posted 5/04/08 @ 4:56 PM EST

Very poorly written. The credibility of this comes into question quickly.

Let's save the fiction for novels, where it is better written.

Thomas

posted 5/04/08 @ 10:59 PM EST

Wayne:

Seeing how my parents have been life long journalists, and I have worked for years on different publications, both school and city, I think I know what I am talking about when it comes to journalism. So good try.

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