Put one on before getting it on
Published: Tuesday, September 17, 2013
Updated: Tuesday, September 17, 2013 23:09
In the past few weeks, I’ve heard way too many times that condoms are optional for sex. The excuses are always something along the lines of “they just don’t feel comfortable”, or “the feeling isn’t the same” – I’ve even heard “they don’t fit me.” (Helpful hint: condoms can stretch to cover the majority of your forearm, which is about nine inches. The average size of a penis is four to six inches; if a man protests that whatever heat he’s packing isn’t a match for any condom available, he’s either a liar or a contender for Ripley’s Believe It Or Not).
A guy who promises that he’ll “pull out” isn’t one to be trusted. Although birth control (if used regularly) does help with decreasing a chance of pregnancy, it doesn’t entirely obliterate that possible leftover percentage. Any amount of ejaculation can contain sperm (even pre-cum), and unless you’ve got $40 to shell out for the morning after pill every time you have sex, it’s better, easier and less expensive to ask your partner to wear a condom. There’s also a chance you can contract an STI, if you’re not in a monogamous relationship (and even if you are – people cheat) or you practice casual sex. Oral sex with multiple partners should require condoms and dental dams as well; there are flavored ones available pretty much everywhere.
The average condom is thin, even if it’s extra-strength (and you can purchase ultra-thin if you so please, which is about 25 percent thinner than standard condoms), and therefore shouldn’t be an irritant during sex. You shouldn’t feel much of anything when you have a condom on – at least, not in a negative sense. The sensations experienced during unprotected versus protected sex are equal. There is nothing incredibly tantalizing or erotic about not wearing a condom, unless the chance of giving your partner a disease, an infant and/or the chance to get a costly abortion turns you on.
I’ve had some girl friends tell me they don’t use condoms because “it hurts.” You might have a latex allergy, but even then you should still use them – non-latex condoms are readily available. One such brand is “Lifestyles Skyn,” which also comes in varying sizes. Lambskin can work as well, although they aren’t as effective at preventing pregnancy and are zero help against STIs. I’ve also heard ladies say that they don’t carry condoms with them, even if they’re expecting to have sex – make sure to carry a few with you, for both you and your friends.
Condoms run about $5 for a pack, and are completely free at the Health Center and the Rainbow Center. Cheapness and laziness are as much of deterrents to sex as the condoms you profess to hate. Be safe, be considerate, and be careful.